The Pressures of Being Mom

I would never want to diminish the role of a mom and they are many: homemaker, fix it handy woman, child raiser, chief cook and bottle washer, cleaner, homework helper, world interpreter, sports coach, and cheerleader. I bet you can think of more. Hurray for us! We are multi-taskers, fonts of wisdom, life partners, and educators, amorous beings. What could be more meaningful or rewarding?

There are no drawbacks in this wonderful job, it is all good; but there can be some pressures. They can be light or can mount up quickly depending upon the circumstances and your adaptability. It’s all how you handle daily life. Crises happen; mishaps and misunderstandings abound. Some women just worry no matter how normal their day may be. It goes with the territory. Sometimes it has to do with deadlines: a school event, a social encounter, an obligation that has come due. Other times it is a run-of-the-mill situation that you are concerned will come through as planned. Often there is no rhyme or reason. Learning the ins and outs of maternal pressure can help any mom learn to cope.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going; and moms are the toughest of the lot. Anyone who can execute the daily grind without a complaint should get accolades. Mom doesn’t get enough. It is a known fact that they are taken for granted. I am on your side. If you ever feel too much stress, just get out that handy mental pressure washer and obliterate it once and for all. Hmmm, mental note: get Hubby to clean outside with our new pressure washer. Know that it is normal to feel some anxiety, but not to a crippling degree. Also know that you have methods to cure the mayhem and madness.

Moms need time for themselves: a mani-pedi, a full-body massage, meditation time, and/or a day at the spa. They need personal rewards to relax and detox. No guilt please. You deserve time away from duties and responsibilities that can weight you down with their never-ending importance. They exist for so many years! You might consider undertaking a written schedule of your week, or a list of your top priorities and have a long, hard look. How many hours do these take? What can interfere with the timely completion of your tasks? How much stress is self-induced and how much is due to others. Above all, what do you think is out of your control?

Your response will be revealing. It will tell you why you feel the way you do and if such an attitude is warranted. Maybe a little more organization will clear a few cluttered paths. Being a mom is a learned experience and those new to the game can certainly use some help. Everyone wants to give advice so take it from family and friends. Anything that eases your mind will be beneficial. The joys are legion when it comes to motherhood, so don’t let little things get you down. Pressure needs to be shed as soon as it rears its ugly head.


Alternative Medical Options For Children and Infants: Are They Right For Your Child?

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Alternative treatments are becoming more and more popular as a choice over traditional medicine, even for the care of children and even babies.  If you are considering holistic health practices or other alternatives, it’s good to be aware of the pros and the cons before doing so.  Here are some things that may help you as you weigh the options.

Many people, these days, are seeking alternative solutions to traditional medical resources because of their distrust in mainstream medicine as well as the hospitals and doctors of such.  Why?  Well, statistics show that every year, 250,000 deaths are actually due to errors made in the medical field.  Medical errors are the third leading cause of death in the United States.  The figures are alarming and many mothers are taking steps which they hope to prevent such a thing from happening to their child.

Of the parents who are seeking alternative treatments, many are doing so strictly for more minor things such as tummy aches, teething and so forth.  A good number say that if there was a more serious ailment such as a broken bone, disease or cancer, they would at least consider traditional medical measures.  Still others feel a serious illness is when they certainly would not depend on traditional medicine.  When traditional is used along with alternative it is referred to as complementary medicine.

Herbal remedies, like teas and tonics, have been used for adults and children alike for centuries.  Peppermint is said to soothe an upset tummy.  Chamomile tea is used in a diluted form for sleeplessness, as an immune booster and even for colic in infants.

Essential oils are the hottest thing in the holistic realm.  Lilac and lavender are said to be soothing for young and old alike.  Eucalyptus helps to unstop stuffy noses.  Essential oils can be blotted on to a cotton ball or used with an infuser or diffuser.

Chiropractic care for youngsters is another big deal right now.  Just the thought may make you cringe but it’s not as dramatic as it sounds.  It is usually applied very lightly and of course, painlessly.  One reason chiropractic might be sought is for a dislocation.  Another is to adjust what trauma occurred during childbirth.  Some seek chiropractic care for issues such as ear aches and are firm believers that it works and does so without medicine.

Acupuncture and acupressure for children and babies are becoming more and more popular too.  Generally, acupressure is the choice over acupuncture because it uses pressure points rather than needles which, as you can imagine, may frighten young children.  Acupuncture and acupressure are used to treat food and environmental allergies, immune deficiencies and other issues too.  Sometimes kinesiology is used along with these methods in which case, a parent is often used as a surrogate for testing while holding the child.

Motherhood is full of difficult choices and whether to go the alternative, traditional or complementary route is indeed one of the toughest decisions you will need to make.  But if you fill your head with all the credible information you can and weigh it all out, you will no doubt be see your individual situation clearly and make wise choices accordingly.


Comforting Your Colicky Baby

I’st six o’clock in the evening and, like clockwork, your baby is screaming.  Her legs are pulled tightly to her chest and her cries are non-stop and very, very loud.  You know she is in pain.  You can hear it in her wailing and see it on her face.  It’s not a wet diaper and she’s certainly not hungry for she just nursed.  All of the blogs and infant care sites you are reading and even the pediatrician are saying it is that it is most likely a bad case of the colic.  You brace yourself for another hour or two of endless crying for both yourself and your poor little infant.

What is colic anyway and most importantly, what can be done to cure it?  Those are age old questions that date back as far as babies do.

The word colic is derived from the Greek word kolikos which is where the word kolonor colon stems from.  Colic is indeed an issue of the intestines.  It can range from simple indigestion to excruciating gastrointestinal pain.

Colic is often referred to as “Purple crying”.  Although it does seem a bit ironic, it is not called such because the baby cries so hard she turns purple.  It is actually an acronym that describes the symptoms, peak (age 2 weeks to 2 months as a rule), unexpected (going from content to screaming), resist (nothing can be done to soothe the baby), pain (the baby is in obvious severe discomfort, long (the bouts of crying seem to last forever) and evening (most colic takes place between six and eight o’clock in the evening).

Colic is often diagnosed from its lack of symptoms rather than the symptoms themselves.  If the baby is not hungry, not wet or soiled and has no apparent medical conditions, it is usually assumed that she has colic.

What causes colic?  Although sometimes a food or milk allergy can aggravate or even trigger it, colic is, unfortunately, just a natural malady that happens when little tiny tummies are adjusting.  It is thought that heredity may play a role too.  If you were a colicky baby, statistics show that you are more likely to have a colicky baby yourself.

Every mother of a baby with colic wants to know the same thing.  “What can be done to cure it?”  Generally speaking, there is no known medical cure.  There are some alternative measures some mothers swear by and some other remedies too that may help.

Gripe water has been used by mothers for years to combat colic, sometimes successfully and sometimes not.  Gripe water is a liquid that can be a combination of various ingredients.  Sodium bicarbonate is usually the main active ingredient and it may also contain ginger, dill, chamomile and dill.  Alcohol was a prime ingredient in the days of old but isn’t usually found in modern day forms.  Gripe water was invented in 1951 as a hopeful remedy not only for colic and teething for malaria as well.  Some gripe waters are not FDA approved and some contain such things as alcohol, sugar, glutens and other ingredients that you will want to avoid so if you decide to try it, please do your homework.

Herbal remedies and essential oils are the choice of some mothers’ for colicky infants.  Ginger, peppermint, dill, lemon oil and chamomile are among the most popular.  Fennel, caraway and aloe are often used as well.  Again, you will want to thoroughly research anything you give your baby and it’s a good idea to check with your pediatrician before- hand.

Paregoric was given to colicky babies throughout the ages too.  It is an opiate and although it was diluted, is certainly not a passive cure.  Even in the 1980’s, many doctors prescribed it but that is no longer a common practice.

If your baby has colic, you know how disheartening it can be.  You feel so helpless.  It is only natural to want to try everything you can in order to stop the pain.  In the long-run though, sometimes all you can do is to hold and comfort your little one and to know that, as my own mother used to assure me, “this too shall pass.”