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Easier Late Night Bathroom Trips

Moms have to be clever. They have to have new solutions to old problems that really work. They must use their ingenuity at all times when they have kids. No matter how many are in the brood and how old they have grown, situations that recur seem like new occurrences. Hence the need to put on the mom’s thinking cap and be the source of all resolutions. The kids depend on this although they may have ideas of their own. Maybe they want a nightlight that is a favorite cartoon character and at least something soothing and not scary to encounter in the middle of the night. This works for some but what happens when the child wanders down the hall on the way to the bathroom and the light is no longer a source of illumination. Its range is limited to the bedroom.

Mom knows. She uses a rechargeable flashlight that she found here that doubles as a nightlight in the bedroom so the kids can pull them out of the outlet and carry them along to the bathroom if they wake up suddenly and feel the need to go at that very moment, no matter what time of night it might be. They love that they are never in the dark on the late night bathroom trips. Maybe the rechargeable flashlight isn’t as a cute as a cartoon character, but it is functional, practical, and it works. Okay, it is a bit cumbersome for the smaller children, but they soon learn how to handle the bulk. They would rather have it along with them during their nighttime forays than nothing at all.

You can depend on this light to never burn out. Thus it is better in the socket than having a small flashlight on the nightstand next to the child’s bed. Who knows what battery life is left? If you don’t want any accidents in bed, you better abandon this less-than-practical idea. Plus, no kid likes to fumble around when getting out of bed to get that nightstand version turned on. A rechargeable flashlight is the best answer. So mom, ever one step ahead of the kids, has decorated it festively to look like a teddy bear with flashing light eyes. When a child reaches for that familiar soft fabric, he or she feels safe and secure.

This is but one example of how mom comes to the rescue to make her children’s lives easier. She knows how to sooth a fevered brow, calm a nervous stomach, and make scary nighttime bathroom trips feel almost inviting. The kids love any excuse to use the teddy flashlight. It is an integral part of their bedrooms and each child has his own outlet. Some nights it is a parade of lights marching down the hall. If mom is up and witnesses the scene, she gives a little laugh out loud before returning peacefully to bed. Let’s hear it for the rechargeable flashlight, a device of many uses.

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The Pressures of Being Mom

I would never want to diminish the role of a mom and they are many: homemaker, fix it handy woman, child raiser, chief cook and bottle washer, cleaner, homework helper, world interpreter, sports coach, and cheerleader. I bet you can think of more. Hurray for us! We are multi-taskers, fonts of wisdom, life partners, and educators, amorous beings. What could be more meaningful or rewarding?

There are no drawbacks in this wonderful job, it is all good; but there can be some pressures. They can be light or can mount up quickly depending upon the circumstances and your adaptability. It’s all how you handle daily life. Crises happen; mishaps and misunderstandings abound. Some women just worry no matter how normal their day may be. It goes with the territory. Sometimes it has to do with deadlines: a school event, a social encounter, an obligation that has come due. Other times it is a run-of-the-mill situation that you are concerned will come through as planned. Often there is no rhyme or reason. Learning the ins and outs of maternal pressure can help any mom learn to cope.

When the going gets tough, the tough get going; and moms are the toughest of the lot. Anyone who can execute the daily grind without a complaint should get accolades. Mom doesn’t get enough. It is a known fact that they are taken for granted. I am on your side. If you ever feel too much stress, just get out that handy mental pressure washer and obliterate it once and for all. Hmmm, mental note: get Hubby to clean outside with our new pressure washer. Know that it is normal to feel some anxiety, but not to a crippling degree. Also know that you have methods to cure the mayhem and madness.

Moms need time for themselves: a mani-pedi, a full-body massage, meditation time, and/or a day at the spa. They need personal rewards to relax and detox. No guilt please. You deserve time away from duties and responsibilities that can weight you down with their never-ending importance. They exist for so many years! You might consider undertaking a written schedule of your week, or a list of your top priorities and have a long, hard look. How many hours do these take? What can interfere with the timely completion of your tasks? How much stress is self-induced and how much is due to others. Above all, what do you think is out of your control?

Your response will be revealing. It will tell you why you feel the way you do and if such an attitude is warranted. Maybe a little more organization will clear a few cluttered paths. Being a mom is a learned experience and those new to the game can certainly use some help. Everyone wants to give advice so take it from family and friends. Anything that eases your mind will be beneficial. The joys are legion when it comes to motherhood, so don’t let little things get you down. Pressure needs to be shed as soon as it rears its ugly head.

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Toilet Training Time

I love the commercial where the cute little boy says, “Mom, mom, I went potty!” Mom smiles and is pretty pleased until she asks, “where?” The little angel points to the tub that he has just handed her and the next image is a giant bottle of Clorox slapped down on the bathroom tiles. It kind of represents what toilet training is all about. There are hits and misses along the way to success. But you better get with it because many nursery or pre-schools require this milestone before a child can enrol.

With a new baby, you probably aren’t thinking that far ahead, but it doesn’t hurt to read up on the subject while the infant is taking one of their infrequent naps. At, or before, age one, a toddler starts to recognize the need to go “potty” and as the months go by, he or she will want to do what you tell him or her on their own. They often fail, but they do like to imitate other kids, so use them when you can.

As they respond to the urge to eliminate, and they become old enough to comprehend basic language, you can discuss what is expected of them. Euphemism of course are welcome. Hence all the silly words for the natural processes. Sphincter control comes between 18 and 24 months. That is a happy acquisition for mom! Real toilet training can now ensue. As always, the kid wants to “do it myself.” Such independence comes earlier than you think!

At two and older, a potty routine should be in place. Children feel good when praised for their newfound competence. They begin to see gender differences and understand more about this vital all day function. They can graduate from their potty to the family toilet. Don’t punish a child for accidents and bedwetting as this can be traumatic. Discuss issues with your paediatrician if you feel your little one is not on schedule.

By three, the memory is growing and the bathroom routine is more ingrained. By five, you should expect bedwetting to be well over. Accidents happen when a child is distracted, so focusing on the need to go is already, even if it disrupts another activity. At preschool, peer pressure also encourages regular bathroom attendance. It is fine for parents and teachers to reward toddlers and young children for their efforts.

It should go smoothly and, believe me, everyone has to go through it. We all learned and survived all the constant fussing. Let it happen naturally and don’t force anything the child is not ready to do. If it takes a long time, so be it. Go with the flow, pun intended. You must give good instructions and be sure the child has the agility to undress themselves when approaching a toilet, junior size or regular. Boys, by the way, train a little more slowly than girls, another one of their many differences. There is nothing better than patience and humor to ease the way. You will have to devise night training as well to cover all the bases. There are things called plastic sheets for you newbies out there. All in all, if you foster a routine and good habits, everything will go as planned.